Book review | Bedazzle by Dr. Shamoly Khera
Bedazzle by Shamoly Khera
Author: Dr. Shamoly Khera
Genre: Self-help, Nonfiction
No. of pages: 279
Published by: Bloomsbury India
Published on: 18th December 2020
My rating: ★★★★★
What makes a person confident? What affects a person's confidence adversely and why is that even important?
Did you know that one's childhood can have a deep impact on one's self-confidence?
Have you ever wondered how a sportsperson performs repeatedly even after multiple failures? Where does that confidence come from, despite past failure? What can we learn from this?
How do animals with lesser thinking capacity step out to hunt, deeply motivated, every single day, despite a previous failed attempt?
Did you know that our environment can affect the ways our confidence is built every day?
Bedazzle deconstructs the core aspects of subconscious motivation in all such scenarios and handpicks the triggers to understand confidence at a deeper level so that anyone can use it to their best advantage. Successful people are often perceived as confident but it is less acknowledged that it is immense confidence that makes people successful. Author Shamoly Khera reveals multiple action plans that can aid a person in developing and maintaining consistent confidence, awakening deep motivation in the self and actualising one's full self-potential.
It's not just inner confidence, however. Portraying this externally is equally essential in dominating today's world-whether at work or in life. From your body language to your voice, the way you walk or your elevator pitch-all of it matters. Bedazzle unravels the perceptions of the human mind and how we can rewire our inner programming to reinforce positive perceptions. Because only when people master both inner and outer confidence, can they truly bedazzle!
Seldom have I come across self-help books that have actually helped me. Shamoly Khera's Bedazzle is a book exchusively about honing your confidence and shining bright out there in the world. As the tag line of the book says, 'the art and science of eternal confidence', the author does dissect every aspect - from A to Z - of confidence.
With 12 different chapters that covers every minuscule essentials of confidence, the book starts off with the biological and evolutionary facet of confidence. Next, the author covers the basic terms and ideas of psychology that makes up the science of confidence. The book then gradually explores all possible ways in which we can program ourselves to become more confident.
Dr. Khera speaks from her years of experience. The book is thoroughly research, the methods applied, and extremely practically presented. She has given tons of real life experiences, anecdotes about her life, so that we as readers and put ourselves in her shoes and delve into the process of becoming confident. She gives pointers, exercises, and has even used diagrams to portray some if the concepts.
The best thing about the book is that it has ample amount of psychological studies. As a person belonging to that field, it's always excruciatingly painful to read Self-help books that do not reference real investigations and experiments. But Dr. Khera makes this book much more interesting and informative by giving us actual evidential studies.
The book covers a whole lot of tips and tricks to improve self-confidence. From how to modulate voice, how to initiate a conversation, body language, what to do with your hands (this was personally very helpful to me) while talking, how to decode eye gaze, how to dress up, and even how to make a powerful PowerPoint presentation - this book covers everything! This book is your go-to book when you need a boost for yourself. And to make the book much more captivating, Dr. Khera gives so many movie (especially, Bollywood) references to give situational examples.
One part that would be particularly important to the people of Instagram/Youtube, is the part where the author talks about how we can use social media to improve our social skills. Just like modern problems need modern solutions, Dr. Khera tackles so many worries of GenZ through social media tips and tricks. This is one non-fiction that should be in everyone's shelves. A must recommendation from me.
Dr Shamoly Khera is a well-known personality in the Indian media and TV industry. She has had an illustrious career as a TV presenter, content producer, public speaker and celebrity coach. Her professional education in medicine and a celebrated career in working with top Bollywood celebrities and corporate executives have equipped her with numerous anecdotes, stories and observations.
Over the last decade, Shamoly has been the face of various television networks, such as Zee, TLC, Colors and MBC, and has devised multiple shows that impacted across cultures and continents. She currently is a Director at her content distribution house, One Take Media Co. With a passion in the field of Neuroscience and Performance Psychology, she mastered the science of NLP and founded 'Speak to Inspire'-a coaching academy where she has coached hundreds of professionals and leaders to become impactful speakers and discover their authentic story.
I received a copy of the book in exchange of an honest and unbiased review.